ELIMINATE

NEGATIVE THOUGHTS How To Overcome Negativity, Control Your Thoughts And Stop Overthinking, Focus Into Positive Thinking And Become Mentally Strong

JOSEPH NEYYAN ([email protected])

Table of Content Copyright © 2021 by Joseph Neyyan ... 4 DISCLAIMER ..................................... 5 ABOUT AUTHOR ................................ 7 ACKNOWLEDGEMENT ...................... 8 INTRODUCTION ................................ 9 CHAPTER-1: HOW TO DEAL WITH NEGATIVE THOUGHTS .................... 14 CHAPTER-2: TEN NEGATIVE THOUGHTS WE ALL HAVE AND ITS REMEDIES ....................................... 23 CHAPTER-3: SEVEN POWERFUL WAYS TO ELIMINATE NEGATIVE THINKING ....................................... 32 CHAPTER-4: TWENTY SMALL HABITS HELP YOU BECOME MENTALLY STRONG ........................................... 44 CHAPTER-5: HOW TO THINK POSITIVE THOUGHTS WHEN FEELING NEGATIVE ......................... 57 CHAPTER-6: HOW TO ELIMINATE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS FROM KILLING YOUR CONFIDENCE ......... 62 2

CHAPTER-7: THE MORE WE COMPARE, THE MORE WE LOSE OURSELVES ..................................... 74 CHAPTER-8: FIVE POWERFUL WAYS TO KILL OFF NEGATIVE THINKING AND CONQUER YOUR MIND ............ 79 CHAPTER-9: HOW TO THINK POSITIVE AND ELIMINATE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS ................... 83 CHAPTER-10: TEN THINGS TO REMEMBER WHEN EVERYTHING GOES WRONG ..................................93 CHAPTER-11: HOW TO STOP OVERTHINKING .............................. 97 CHAPTER-12: TIPS FOR CONTROL YOUR ANGER ................................. 107 Conclusion .......................................112 References .......................................113 Could You Please Leave A Review on the Book? ........................................ 114 ABOUT THE BOOK .......................... 115

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ABOUT AUTHOR

Exploring the world of books, researching writers, read author blogs, and more. Attended the ‘CMS Higher Secondary School’ which is affiliated to Central Board of Secondary Education, New Delhi. After completing the formal part of his education, he graduated from the Indira Gandhi National Open University, New Delhi, thereafter enrolled in the Army and served the nation for 28 long years and retired as a Junior Commissioned Officer. Now enjoying the privilege of being able to write full time, he is committed to producing books on nonfiction (personal development) that not only inspire and challenge people but also inspire in living life that is more rewarding and fulfilling. He is also a blogger, You Tuber, Wellness Coach and Author of five books in series.

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT First, I thank the Almighty for making this book possible. I wish to thank my Mom, Mrs. Mary George and Dad Late Mr. NT George, who gave birth to me in this earth and made capable to lead the journey of writing this book. My wife Mrs. Litty Joseph, who not only recognized in me that flair for writing my thoughts but also gave me the opportunity to write in my ‘her time’. I don’t want to miss out on all the friends, mentor who are pursuing Masters with me, yet all your encouragement on this news added new feathers on my cap. To my entire family and wonderful people who have imbibed positivity in me and those I couldn’t take names of, I cannot thank you enough. And last, to all the readers who chose to give my book a read and gather all the courage in analyzing the honest positive views.

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INTRODUCTION

“Appreciate good people. They are hard to come by” - Kushandwizdom During my childhood I was suffering from mental illness, which aloof to attend the school daily routine. I don’t know how to inform this disease to anyone because of fear of society. I consumed this because of my negative thoughts, stress and depression at every time. The sicker I got, the more I withdrew from the world and from my friends and family, so telling my parents I had a mental illness was one of the most daunting experiences ever. But looking back, my parents finding out turned out to be the best thing that could have happened. It probably saved my life. I had suffered for years with depression and an eating disorder. I often thought about reaching out and asking for help of talking to my parents about it, but the thought of putting them through I would spend hours alone in my room pushing everyone away and going further and further into this black hole. 9

I was at boarding school. It was a fantastic experience in lots of ways, but it can also be very stressful and it can make hiding mental illness very easy. I would spend hours alone in my room, pushing everyone away and going further and further into this black hole. My school noticed something was wrong, and although I refused to talk to anyone about what was going on, I agreed to be referred to Child and Adolescent Mental health services (CAMHS). Therapy is a great thing but you have to want to get better and want to help yourself for it to really work and this wasn’t the case for me. I was in denial. I constantly fought to be discharged and refused to comply with the treatment. My illness worsened, and it got to where I was too sick to go to school, so I was sent home. This was when my parents found out everything. Telling them the truth was horrible. I felt like I was revealing all my secrets to them. I was worried about being judged. “I was so consumed by my illness at that point I couldn’t see how it was ever going to be possible for me to get better”.

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Dad and I have always been close. We have a great relationship. We gig together in our bands and talk about everything–but when it came to mental health; I had hidden everything. Dad took the news really well and I remember him saying “I will do anything to help you, I won’t let you die”. These words really hit home, making me realize how loved I was and reminding me that people cared about me. I was so consumed by my illness at that point I couldn’t see how it was ever going to be possible for me to get better, but hearing my Dad’s words made me want to live. Once the truth was out, things moved quickly. The priority was getting me safe, of course, but I never felt like I was being restricted. My parents did everything they could to keep the atmosphere positive. We spent many hours talking through everything–it was difficult but it was really important and I felt better and less alone. We then spent nights in hotels so that I could have my appointments at CAMHS and go to school to attend a few lessons a week. From the second my parents found out about my illness, everything was about supporting me but also trying to get things back to normal for me, and never about holding me back. They gave me endless support. 11

“It was a huge sacrifice on my Dad’s part as he gave up a lot of aspects of his life”. Dad got a new Job near my school, and we got a flat together. It was a huge sacrifice on my Dad’s part as he gave up a lot of aspects of his life for months and moved over two hours from our family home to help me. I went to school part time at first and would then come home and talk about everything with Dad. I never hid my feelings, and it was easy because I never felt like Dad was judging me or upset about it, just that he wanted to help. At mealtimes I would do the cooking which helped me still feel in control and we would sit on sofas and watch television or play card games to help me feel relaxed. Eating was never a forced thing–it was just me and Dad having food together like normal, which made me feel comfortable about eating again. We would also do the shopping together, which meant I could pick all the foods I liked and felt ok with, but as I got better, I started discovering new foods. Even though I still get anxious sometimes, I have re-found my love of food and loved my body again.

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Exercise was also important. I’ve always loved sports and doing something my love gave me a new drive to continue when I started school full time again it was nearly exam time so my stress levels were rising. Dad helped me learn to cope with stress and to enjoy the activities that I loved before getting ill, such as my music, dancing and sailing. We would go back to the family home to the rest of my family every weekend, which really helped too. For me, the support from my Dad and family and friends was the key to my recovery. I can never thank everyone enough for their patience and love through a tough time. Eliminate negative thoughts by following simple habits, recovered from mental illness, brought happiness and helped to build best version of myself.

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CHAPTER-1: HOW TO DEAL WITH NEGATIVE THOUGHTS “You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending”- C.S. Lewis When I think back to all the unhappy and frustrating times in my life, I realize now that I prolonged these experiences because I spent too much time in my head. I was worrying about the future or thinking about past mistakes, missed opportunities, and all the other events in my life where I felt dissatisfied and frustrated. I didn’t even realize how much impact negative thoughts had on my life. As per the scientific researches, there are around 60,000 to 70,000 different thoughts in the mind of a person in a day and 95% out of these thoughts are useless of negative thoughts. I was having daily were preventing me from not only enjoying life experiences, but draining my energy and distracting me from focusing on what was important in my life.

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In this chapter, you will understand why you have negative thoughts and how to deal with them. What causes negative thoughts? The first thing to do is to find the why–what triggers set off your negative thinking? If you can find the answer why you are constantly having so many negative thoughts, then you will be one step closer to better managing the impact that negative thinking is having on your life. Mental Health Conditions. Negative thoughts have many causes, and these causes can differ for everyone. The most excessive cause of negative thinking can be because of mental health conditions such as Obsessivecompulsive disorder (OCD) or Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Depression is also a factor that contributes to negative thoughts. If you feel you may struggle with a mental illness, contact a mental health professional to get medical advice. Rumination. Everyone has negative thoughts from time to time; it’s a natural part of life to feel sad or down. The danger for us, 15